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Ayisha Osori

Writer, lawyer, feminist, activist, mother, lover, human first

Oldy but goody - it is useful to be reminded of simple principles on communicating better, easy to apply rules that one knows but too rarely applies.

Fundamental Techniques in Handling People

1. Don’t criticize, condemn or complain
2. Give honest and sincere appreciation
3. Arouse in the other person an eager want

6 ways to make people like you

1. Be genuinely interested in other people
2. Smile 
3. Remember names
4. Listen well. Encourage others to talk about themselves
5. Talk in terms of the other’s interests
6. Make the other person feel important 
Win people to your way of thinking

1. The only way to win an argument is to avoid it
2. Show respect for the other person’s opinions. Never say ‘you are wrong’
3. Admit it when you are wrong
4. Begin in a friendly way
5. Get the person saying ‘yes’ immediately 
6. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking
7. Let the other person feel that the idea is theirs
8. Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view
9. Be sympathetic to the other person’s ideas & desires
10. Appeal to nobler motives
11. Dramatize your ideas
12. Throw down a challenge

Be a leader

1. Begin with praise & honest appreciation
2. Call attention to people’s ,mistakes indirectly
3. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person
4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders
5. Let the other person save face
6. Praise improvement
7. Give the person a fine reputation to live up to
8. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct
9. Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.

Oldy but goody - it is useful to be reminded of simple principles on communicating better, easy to apply rules that one knows but too rarely applies. Fundamental Techniques in Handling People 1. Don’t criticize, condemn or complain 2. Give honest and sincere appreciation 3. Arouse in the other person an eager want 6 ways to make people like you 1. Be genuinely interested in other people 2. Smile 3. Remember names 4. Listen well. Encourage others to talk about themselves 5. Talk in terms of the other’s interests 6. Make the other person feel important Win people to your way of thinking 1. The only way to win an argument is to avoid it 2. Show respect for the other person’s opinions. Never say ‘you are wrong’ 3. Admit it when you are wrong 4. Begin in a friendly way 5. Get the person saying ‘yes’ immediately 6. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking 7. Let the other person feel that the idea is theirs 8. Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view 9. Be sympathetic to the other person’s ideas & desires 10. Appeal to nobler motives 11. Dramatize your ideas 12. Throw down a challenge Be a leader 1. Begin with praise & honest appreciation 2. Call attention to people’s ,mistakes indirectly 3. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person 4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders 5. Let the other person save face 6. Praise improvement 7. Give the person a fine reputation to live up to 8. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct 9. Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest. - 6 days ago

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21 women who stepped out of line!

Never heard of Pharaoh Hatshepsut- who had to rewrite the narrative of her birth (people preferring fiction to facts is as old as time) to gain acceptance as a pharaoh in Egypt

Joan of Arc- had a tight self defense to the allegations made by the British and what actually got her burnt at the stake was wearing trousers! 
Many reasons to dislike Isabella including ethnic cleansing but this queen had a prenup & licensed prostitution in the 15th century. And for those that play chess- the power of the queen on the board is in recognition of the power of Isabella of Castile

Clara Schumann- classic case of husband who insists his career, his talent, his aspirations are more important than his wife’s. “What he wanted from his wife was exactly what she feared: an artist with a bonnet on her head and a bunch of keys at her waist’ And she struggled and still...was brilliant and productive 
Marie Curie was more fortunate in that the men in her life- husband and father in law (who looked after her children) were super supportive and her husband especially gave her the acknowledgment that was hers even while the establishment did not. And despite being absorbed by her research her daughters turned out fine! One of them going on to win a Nobel prize as well. 
Many of them divorced or widowed...telling.

Angela Merkel is still my favorite!

#BenazirBhutto #HillaryClinton #WangariMaathai #GoldaMeir #CocoChanel #FridaKahlo #ToniMorrison #SirimavoBandaranaike #MargaretAtwood #CatherineTheGreat #EmpressCixi #AnnaPolitkovskaya #CathyFreeman #Madonna

21 women who stepped out of line! Never heard of Pharaoh Hatshepsut- who had to rewrite the narrative of her birth (people preferring fiction to facts is as old as time) to gain acceptance as a pharaoh in Egypt Joan of Arc- had a tight self defense to the allegations made by the British and what actually got her burnt at the stake was wearing trousers! Many reasons to dislike Isabella including ethnic cleansing but this queen had a prenup & licensed prostitution in the 15th century. And for those that play chess- the power of the queen on the board is in recognition of the power of Isabella of Castile Clara Schumann- classic case of husband who insists his career, his talent, his aspirations are more important than his wife’s. “What he wanted from his wife was exactly what she feared: an artist with a bonnet on her head and a bunch of keys at her waist’ And she struggled and still...was brilliant and productive Marie Curie was more fortunate in that the men in her life- husband and father in law (who looked after her children) were super supportive and her husband especially gave her the acknowledgment that was hers even while the establishment did not. And despite being absorbed by her research her daughters turned out fine! One of them going on to win a Nobel prize as well. Many of them divorced or widowed...telling. Angela Merkel is still my favorite! #BenazirBhutto #HillaryClinton #WangariMaathai #GoldaMeir #CocoChanel #FridaKahlo #ToniMorrison #SirimavoBandaranaike #MargaretAtwood #CatherineTheGreat #EmpressCixi #AnnaPolitkovskaya #CathyFreeman #Madonna - 2 months ago

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