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I made a post back in early January about choosing a word for 2020, instead of setting a bunch of goals. Many people have asked me my word, and I have held back. Unable to figure out how to truly narrow this word down.
What I did know, was that I wanted solve this conundrum in my life, on becoming more confident without coming across as cocky.
So, I had to define these two words, not to Merriam-Webster, but to Dana Lattery. Upon much discussion I came to the conclusion, that I needed to change the words I was use from Confidence to Bravery and Cockiness to Bravado. I know they are intertwined, and so yin and yang like, but here I have arrived.
I choose Bravery, formally know as confident.
And here is the ying and yang of such thoughts;
Ambition is not a crime. Confident people relish achievement and contributing their talents to the world. They don’t feel threatened by others’ successes and instead try to learn from them.
You are intrinsically no better or worse than anyone else. In addition to your successes, you have flaws, failures and really bad days or even years. You treat yourself with compassion while taking responsibility for your choices, and you learn from misfortune and mistakes.
Truly secure people evaluate their own behavior and face their doubts. By letting go of fear, you set yourself up for success.
If you like yourself as you are, you free up energy to be genuinely interested in other people. You engage in active listening and ask sincere questions. In turn, people will respond positively to your attentiveness.
You build true self-confidence from within and project it to the world. Confident people have a realistic picture of their own traits and abilities and trust themselves enough to respond to life authentically. They learn from failure rather than letting it define them, and they forge ahead a bit wiser.
#lovepeople #choosebravery #flyfishingsaveslives - 26 minutes ago