Let’s stop being so quick to label people. People should be able to express anger, a natural human emotion, without being labelled ‘aggressive’, or be able to cry without being labelled ‘too sensitive’. Emotions are data. What are they reacting to? Why are they angry or frustrated? Why are they upset? What is it that’s triggering this response?
It’s time to start seeing the ‘human’ in people rather than labelling them and adopting an all or nothing, black and white mindset.
If we want better relationships we need to be more curious and less judgemental. We need to listen to empathise and understand, and not label.
When someone expresses, let them. And never use it against them at a later date. Their feelings are valid. When someone opens up, be curious, not judgemental.
It’s easy to get defensive and take it personally, but it is never about you. Their reaction is usually a trigger from childhood or a painful experience. Ask them what is it that has made you angry or upset about this situation? What is it they need but haven’t received? Is it to feel heard or seen? Or loved? Or accepted? To feel like they’re good enough?
Emotions like anger help to discover boundaries and needs which need to be met. Emotions are data to learn about needs and boundaries. Expressing emotions, even uncomfortable ones like anger, will help to strengthen relationships.
Listen to the wisdom of emotions, learn from it, and communicate it. And when someone else is expressing their emotions always be curious and empathetic, not judgemental. ✨ - 4 minutes ago