You've gotten feedback. People are already telling you what you need to know. But you see yourself as a victim of unfair treatment. You feel misunderstood and misjudged.
Rather than being defensive, what if you really considered it? An #Alpha seeks #feedback . You've already heard the things you need to change. When it has come to you from multiple sources, you should especially pay attention to that kind of message.
If this is your boss, your significant other, your spouse, you have valuable information because they know you so well. Rather than resist it, what if you gave the person who sees *all of you* some credit and have the #balls to take action on it.
Think about the things you've been told. You are flawed and you have major #changes to make.
Accept it. Ask yourself if it could be true. Then, when you are ready to be a #grownassman , say to them:
• I can see how you would feel that way.
• You're making some valid points, I will consider them.
• I haven't quite seen it that way, but I will think about what you're telling me.
• I value your perspective, let me think about this.
When I played college #football , every Sunday morning was a film study. We would watch the film of the game from the day before, and every single play was analyzed. We had a saying: "the eye in the sky don't lie." Someone in your life is seeing your behavior and they’re giving you information that can help you improve.
Don't just halfheartedly accept the feedback. BEG for information about how you can be better. You have blind spots, #bro .
And even if what motivates you is mere SELF-preservation, understand that the person giving you the feedback is also giving *other valuable things to you and you need them. Dig in, look in the mirror, and have the #courage and #confidence to believe that you might, in fact, be wrong altogether. That makes you a #badass . Resistance is what makes you weak. Grow up and be #accountable . . . . .
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