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Read this. And then read it again. And let it sink in. #facts #stopthestigma #traumahealing #traumasurvivor #usethepaintogrow #empowermentnotexploitation #rewritethenarrativeofyourstory #choosehealingoverhurting #youhavethepowertostopthecycle

Read this. And then read it again. And let it sink in. #facts #stopthestigma #traumahealing #traumasurvivor #usethepaintogrow #empowermentnotexploitation #rewritethenarrativeofyourstory #choosehealingoverhurting #youhavethepowertostopthecycle - 2 months ago

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You're human and it's ok...
"Check yourself.
Sometimes you are the toxic person.
Sometimes you are the mean, negative person you’re looking to push away.
Sometimes the problem is you.
And that doesn’t make you less worthy.
Keep on growing.
Keep on checking yourself.
Keep on motivating yourself.
Mistakes are opportunities.
Look at them, own them, grow from them and move on.
Do better, be better." ~ Unknown
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#selfawareness #selfaware #selfawarenessjourney #lookinthemirror #choosejoy #choosehealthy #choosehealing #choosehealingoverhurting #awakening #awake #dothework #recovery #recoveryquotes #onedayatatime #therapy #selflove #bethechange #toxic #toxicrelationships #toxicpeople #stepaway #chooseyou #human #healing #healingishard

You're human and it's ok... "Check yourself. Sometimes you are the toxic person. Sometimes you are the mean, negative person you’re looking to push away. Sometimes the problem is you. And that doesn’t make you less worthy. Keep on growing. Keep on checking yourself. Keep on motivating yourself. Mistakes are opportunities. Look at them, own them, grow from them and move on. Do better, be better." ~ Unknown . . #selfawareness #selfaware #selfawarenessjourney #lookinthemirror #choosejoy #choosehealthy #choosehealing #choosehealingoverhurting #awakening #awake #dothework #recovery #recoveryquotes #onedayatatime #therapy #selflove #bethechange #toxic #toxicrelationships #toxicpeople #stepaway #chooseyou #human #healing #healingishard - 5 months ago

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This picture hit me like a ton of bricks!
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I've been struggling as of late with something in the past. It's had feelings of shame and guilt permeating my thoughts and actions. Those feelings have opened up a can of worms called "Self Limiting Beliefs", specifically those of which I feel undeserving and unlovable.
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If I'm to be honest with myself, I do believe I'm deserving and lovable. The problem lies in not forgiving myself of past mistakes out of fear someone else might actually see in my heart who I truly am and long to be.
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And I'm terrified I'll never "measure up", thus solidifying those self limiting beliefs all over again.
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I'm not scared of the past repeating itself, but of trusting myself enough not to make those same mistakes over and over again.
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My true fear is of failure.
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So, I continue to live in "what was" and not "what is". That's my comfort zone and also my biggest excuse.
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And that "excuse" will eat me alive if I don't learn to let go and believe in myself once again.
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For if God has forgiven me, loves me and has faith in me, what else should truly matter?
#letgoandletgod #fearisaliar
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#forgiveyourselfasgodhasforgivenyou #setyourheartfree #choosehealingoverhurting
#bpdstruggles #ptsd #posttraumaticstressdisorder #eupdrecovery #mentalhealthhealing #recoveryisaprocess #beatanxiety #depressionrelief #forgiveandletgo #youareworthy #iamworthy #youaredeserving #youarelovable #youmatter #godisbyyourside #godislove #godsplan

. This picture hit me like a ton of bricks! . I've been struggling as of late with something in the past. It's had feelings of shame and guilt permeating my thoughts and actions. Those feelings have opened up a can of worms called "Self Limiting Beliefs", specifically those of which I feel undeserving and unlovable. . If I'm to be honest with myself, I do believe I'm deserving and lovable. The problem lies in not forgiving myself of past mistakes out of fear someone else might actually see in my heart who I truly am and long to be. . And I'm terrified I'll never "measure up", thus solidifying those self limiting beliefs all over again. . I'm not scared of the past repeating itself, but of trusting myself enough not to make those same mistakes over and over again. . My true fear is of failure. . So, I continue to live in "what was" and not "what is". That's my comfort zone and also my biggest excuse. . And that "excuse" will eat me alive if I don't learn to let go and believe in myself once again. . For if God has forgiven me, loves me and has faith in me, what else should truly matter? #letgoandletgod #fearisaliar . . #forgiveyourselfasgodhasforgivenyou #setyourheartfree #choosehealingoverhurting #bpdstruggles #ptsd #posttraumaticstressdisorder #eupdrecovery #mentalhealthhealing #recoveryisaprocess #beatanxiety #depressionrelief #forgiveandletgo #youareworthy #iamworthy #youaredeserving #youarelovable #youmatter #godisbyyourside #godislove #godsplan - 5 months ago

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I held on to the past so hard, I created scars on top of scars.
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I held on to relationships too long and created heartache on top of heartbreak.
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I held on to every past mistake for so many years, making them over and over again became "normal".
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I still trip over my own two feet though, cause I haul all of that excess baggage with me.
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😥Holding on hurts.
😣Letting go hurts.
😟Staying stuck hurts.
😢Change hurts.
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Yet what hurts the most is clinging to that which will never allow one to truly heal.
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Learn to accept your past, work through your trauma and love yourself.....
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.....then let it go ❤
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#letitgo #freeyourself #leavethebaggagebehind #lighterload #newbeginnings #freshatart #forgive #selfcaresunday #moveforward #dontstaystuck #learntoliveagain #choosehealingoverhurting #youmatter #remindertoself

. I held on to the past so hard, I created scars on top of scars. . I held on to relationships too long and created heartache on top of heartbreak. . I held on to every past mistake for so many years, making them over and over again became "normal". . I still trip over my own two feet though, cause I haul all of that excess baggage with me. . 😥Holding on hurts. 😣Letting go hurts. 😟Staying stuck hurts. 😢Change hurts. . Yet what hurts the most is clinging to that which will never allow one to truly heal. . Learn to accept your past, work through your trauma and love yourself..... . .....then let it go ❤ . . #letitgo #freeyourself #leavethebaggagebehind #lighterload #newbeginnings #freshatart #forgive #selfcaresunday #moveforward #dontstaystuck #learntoliveagain #choosehealingoverhurting #youmatter #remindertoself - 6 months ago

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Wise words from @rebelthriver #chooselife #chooseyou #choosehealingoverhurting #nurtureyourself @ireneellisart #faith #godchoosesyou

Wise words from @rebelthriver #chooselife #chooseyou #choosehealingoverhurting #nurtureyourself @ireneellisart #faith #godchoosesyou - 6 months ago

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Word of the day
Healed
#beutoday #lovegodlovepeople #choosehealingoverhurting #speaklife #wotd #wordoftheday

Word of the day Healed #beutoday #lovegodlovepeople #choosehealingoverhurting #speaklife #wotd #wordoftheday - 7 months ago

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#anxietyblobfact
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Over the years, I've become increasingly "nitpicky" and need to have things "just so". The more anxious I become, the more in need I am of that control.
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Problem is, control issues are only a manifestation of anxiety, not what is truly going on at the heart of it.
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I was in a relationship where my need for control seemed to increase exponentially. It didn't help he'd had similar issues with a previous partner, but what I had failed to see was the need for control rose and fell in proprtion with the level of anxiousness I was feeling at the time. #REDFLAGS
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That relationship eventually ended for various reasons, but would have much sooner had I realized the true problem(s) at the epicenter of said anxiety.
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Pay attention to your own #actions/#reactions/#changes. There are reasons behind them, which means there's also solutions, but only if you quit trying to solely treat the surface manifestations.
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Remember friends, you need to get real with yourself in order to heal yourself......
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#anxietyisnottherealissue #getrealtoheal #manifestations #changeyourperspective #getreal #anxietyrelief #anxiouslife #therealissueis #surfacecrap #stopdoingthatshit #makeyourselfwholeagain #bpdstruggles #cptsdissues #ptsdproblems #recoveryisaprocess #choosehealingoverhurting #dontlookdownlookup

. #anxietyblobfact . Over the years, I've become increasingly "nitpicky" and need to have things "just so". The more anxious I become, the more in need I am of that control. . Problem is, control issues are only a manifestation of anxiety, not what is truly going on at the heart of it. . I was in a relationship where my need for control seemed to increase exponentially. It didn't help he'd had similar issues with a previous partner, but what I had failed to see was the need for control rose and fell in proprtion with the level of anxiousness I was feeling at the time. #REDFLAGS . That relationship eventually ended for various reasons, but would have much sooner had I realized the true problem(s) at the epicenter of said anxiety. . Pay attention to your own #actions /#reactions /#changes . There are reasons behind them, which means there's also solutions, but only if you quit trying to solely treat the surface manifestations. . Remember friends, you need to get real with yourself in order to heal yourself...... . . #anxietyisnottherealissue #getrealtoheal #manifestations #changeyourperspective #getreal #anxietyrelief #anxiouslife #therealissueis #surfacecrap #stopdoingthatshit #makeyourselfwholeagain #bpdstruggles #cptsdissues #ptsdproblems #recoveryisaprocess #choosehealingoverhurting #dontlookdownlookup - 8 months ago

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I quit going to church when I turned 18. To this day, I still don't know why, yet I do know I lost my faith for many, many years. I became angry at God. I blamed God. Little did I realize until I began to look back that He had always been there for/with me, even when I believed He wasn't or didn't deserve it. He stayed even when I tried to push Him away. He never lost faith in me, even when I lost faith in Him and myself.
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I used Him as my scapegoat, just as I did those who hurt me. I played the blame game for decades, only to realize those I blamed weren't the problem.
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The problem was & still is myself.
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My life isn't shit because of what happened by others. My life is shit because of what I allowed thereafter to happen to myself.
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I'm learning I blamed everyone else (therapists included) for not helping me, when the reality is, how could they help me if I wasn't willing to help myself? I instead blamed, sidestepped & made excuse after excuse after excuse.
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But God never abandoned me, I abandoned myself. God never gave up on me, I gave up on myself. God accepted me, yet I never accepted myself. God forgave me, yet I never forgave myself.
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Life won't change by running or avoiding. Life won't change by blaming. Life only changes when you look within & are truly honest with yourself. For it's not others who have control over you, your reactions or the quality of your life. That lies within you. Faith lies within you. Trust lies within you. Acceptance lies within you. Forgiveness lies within you. God lies within you.
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See a pattern there? Everything you've ever wanted, lies solely WITHIN YOU!!
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#changeourperspective
#changeyourreality
#changeyourlife
#itstartsandstopswithyou
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#stoptheexcuses #stoptheblamegame #takeresponsibility #beaccountable #havefaithingod #makeadecision #makeachange #makeyourselfwholeagain #itallbeginswithyou #healingisnoteasy #choosehealingoverhurting #godslove #unconditionallove #uncoveryourheart #uncoveryouridentity #uncoveryou

. I quit going to church when I turned 18. To this day, I still don't know why, yet I do know I lost my faith for many, many years. I became angry at God. I blamed God. Little did I realize until I began to look back that He had always been there for/with me, even when I believed He wasn't or didn't deserve it. He stayed even when I tried to push Him away. He never lost faith in me, even when I lost faith in Him and myself. . I used Him as my scapegoat, just as I did those who hurt me. I played the blame game for decades, only to realize those I blamed weren't the problem. . The problem was & still is myself. . My life isn't shit because of what happened by others. My life is shit because of what I allowed thereafter to happen to myself. . I'm learning I blamed everyone else (therapists included) for not helping me, when the reality is, how could they help me if I wasn't willing to help myself? I instead blamed, sidestepped & made excuse after excuse after excuse. . But God never abandoned me, I abandoned myself. God never gave up on me, I gave up on myself. God accepted me, yet I never accepted myself. God forgave me, yet I never forgave myself. . Life won't change by running or avoiding. Life won't change by blaming. Life only changes when you look within & are truly honest with yourself. For it's not others who have control over you, your reactions or the quality of your life. That lies within you. Faith lies within you. Trust lies within you. Acceptance lies within you. Forgiveness lies within you. God lies within you. . See a pattern there? Everything you've ever wanted, lies solely WITHIN YOU!! . #changeourperspective #changeyourreality #changeyourlife #itstartsandstopswithyou . . #stoptheexcuses #stoptheblamegame #takeresponsibility #beaccountable #havefaithingod #makeadecision #makeachange #makeyourselfwholeagain #itallbeginswithyou #healingisnoteasy #choosehealingoverhurting #godslove #unconditionallove #uncoveryourheart #uncoveryouridentity #uncoveryou - 8 months ago

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So important to own your healing. Great challenge and reminder from  @queensroyaltyllc
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#choosetoheal #heal #healingquotes #healing #ichoosehealing #choosehealingoverhurting #choosehealingforyoursoul #choosehealingnow #choosehealing #choosehealingthatworksforyou #choosehealingnothurting #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealth #mental #mentalhealthquotes #mentalhealthsupport #mentalhealthblogger #mentalhealthsupport #mentalhealthawarness #mentalhealthcounseling #mentalhealthstigma #mentalhealthisimportant #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthstigma #mentalhealthwarrior #mentalhealthadvice #mentalhealth

So important to own your healing. Great challenge and reminder from @queensroyaltyllc ・・・ #choosetoheal #heal #healingquotes #healing #ichoosehealing #choosehealingoverhurting #choosehealingforyoursoul #choosehealingnow #choosehealing #choosehealingthatworksforyou #choosehealingnothurting #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealth #mental #mentalhealthquotes #mentalhealthsupport #mentalhealthblogger #mentalhealthsupport #mentalhealthawarness #mentalhealthcounseling #mentalhealthstigma #mentalhealthisimportant #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthstigma #mentalhealthwarrior #mentalhealthadvice #mentalhealth - 9 months ago

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#choosetoheal #heal #healingquotes #healing #ichoosehealing #choosehealingoverhurting #choosehealingforyoursoul #choosehealingnow #choosehealing #choosehealingthatworksforyou #choosehealingnothurting #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealth #mental #mentalhealthquotes #mentalhealthsupport #mentalhealthblogger #mentalhealthsupport #mentalhealthawarness #mentalhealthcounseling #mentalhealthstigma #mentalhealthisimportant #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthstigma #mentalhealthwarrior #mentalhealthadvice #mentalhealth

#choosetoheal #heal #healingquotes #healing #ichoosehealing #choosehealingoverhurting #choosehealingforyoursoul #choosehealingnow #choosehealing #choosehealingthatworksforyou #choosehealingnothurting #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealth #mental #mentalhealthquotes #mentalhealthsupport #mentalhealthblogger #mentalhealthsupport #mentalhealthawarness #mentalhealthcounseling #mentalhealthstigma #mentalhealthisimportant #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthstigma #mentalhealthwarrior #mentalhealthadvice #mentalhealth - 9 months ago

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#choosetoheal #heal #healingquotes #healing #ichoosehealing #choosehealingoverhurting #choosehealingforyoursoul #choosehealingnow #choosehealing #choosehealingthatworksforyou #choosehealingnothurting #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealth #mental #mentalhealthquotes #mentalhealthsupport #mentalhealthblogger #mentalhealthsupport #mentalhealthawarness #mentalhealthcounseling #mentalhealthstigma #mentalhealthisimportant #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthstigma #mentalhealthwarrior #mentalhealthadvice #mentalhealth

#choosetoheal #heal #healingquotes #healing #ichoosehealing #choosehealingoverhurting #choosehealingforyoursoul #choosehealingnow #choosehealing #choosehealingthatworksforyou #choosehealingnothurting #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealth #mental #mentalhealthquotes #mentalhealthsupport #mentalhealthblogger #mentalhealthsupport #mentalhealthawarness #mentalhealthcounseling #mentalhealthstigma #mentalhealthisimportant #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthstigma #mentalhealthwarrior #mentalhealthadvice #mentalhealth - 9 months ago

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My problem in a nutshell! I begin, some obstacle is thrown in the way (many times it happens to be myself tripping over my own two feet) and then cave.
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It takes 21 days to create a habit and 90 to create a lifestyle. Those first 90 days of anything you're working towards needs to involve consistency above all else. My anxiety coach (@beatanxiety.me) constantly reminds us it takes hard, CONSISTENT work to heal and he ain't lying!! 💯 #truthbomb
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The thing to remember is nothing happens over night, but over time. If you happen to falter, get back up and start again. I've found one of my worst thought patterns when I "falter" though, is mistaking it for "failure". This way of thinking alone is what can push one back into their "comfort zone". That zone, in any way, shape or form, is NOT a place where change can occur.
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Change isn't easy. It's not supposed to be. It's aim is to challenge you and promote growth. The only constant in life IS change. So when we become consistent in our actions, we can then view change (and life) through a different lens.
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For the path to consistency isn't meant to hurt you my friends, it's meant to help you heal.....
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#changeourperspective
#changeyourreality
#changeyourlife
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#bpd #eupd #ptsd #cptsd #ocd #bipolar #depression #anxiety #beatanxiety #anxietycoach #suicide #change #mentalhealthawarenessmonth #suicideprevention #suicideawareness 
#consistent #choosehealingoverhurting #dontlookdownlookup #loveyourself #believeinyourself #youareworthy #youmatter #dontgivein #dontgiveup

. My problem in a nutshell! I begin, some obstacle is thrown in the way (many times it happens to be myself tripping over my own two feet) and then cave. . It takes 21 days to create a habit and 90 to create a lifestyle. Those first 90 days of anything you're working towards needs to involve consistency above all else. My anxiety coach (@beatanxiety.me ) constantly reminds us it takes hard, CONSISTENT work to heal and he ain't lying!! 💯 #truthbomb . The thing to remember is nothing happens over night, but over time. If you happen to falter, get back up and start again. I've found one of my worst thought patterns when I "falter" though, is mistaking it for "failure". This way of thinking alone is what can push one back into their "comfort zone". That zone, in any way, shape or form, is NOT a place where change can occur. . Change isn't easy. It's not supposed to be. It's aim is to challenge you and promote growth. The only constant in life IS change. So when we become consistent in our actions, we can then view change (and life) through a different lens. . For the path to consistency isn't meant to hurt you my friends, it's meant to help you heal..... . #changeourperspective #changeyourreality #changeyourlife . . #bpd #eupd #ptsd #cptsd #ocd #bipolar #depression #anxiety #beatanxiety #anxietycoach #suicide #change #mentalhealthawarenessmonth #suicideprevention #suicideawareness #consistent #choosehealingoverhurting #dontlookdownlookup #loveyourself #believeinyourself #youareworthy #youmatter #dontgivein #dontgiveup - 9 months ago

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I can identify all too closely with this quote at the current time. Getting through the day as a "non-smoker" is all I'm concentrating on at the moment. It's been almost 7 days so far and I hate to admit, I got to the point of "begging" for a cigarette a few times (which thankfully was never given to me).
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Yup, I said the "B" word 😳 It's exactly that which keeps me from picking up another cancer stick! If you get to the point you need to "Beg" for money, a smoke, drugs, junk food, alcohol, sex, etc. (AKA #addiction), STOP, take a step back and ask yourself, "WTF am I doing?"
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🙄Yes, #acknowledgement of any issue/addiction is uncomfortable.
😕Yes, #acceptance of said issue/addiction is also uncomfortable.
😳Yes, #withdrawal is uncomfortable.
😥Yes, creating new habits/routine can be terrifying.
🤔Yes, it does take a change in perspective, alongside the realization that you ARE worthy of healing!!
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If you continue down the path of self destruction, it will eventually lead to what seems like your entire world spinning out of control and will drag you kicking and screaming along for the ride. This can include, but is not limited to: car accidents, self-harm, rape, suicide attempts, verbal/physical/sexual/mental abuse and trauma, casual sex, more addictions, overdose, cancer and/or death.
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You are worth more than that. SO, SO much more!! Yes, you took that first puff, drink or hit, but the reason why is insignificant in comparison to this plain and simple fact: YOU ARE KILLING YOURSELF!!
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Isn't it time to stop devaluing all the beauty that is you? Isn't it time to finally deal with the pain, forgive and begin to heal?
#lifeistooshorttocontinuehurting
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My friends, YOU ALL ARE:
#worthy
#talented
#strong
#blessings
#amazing
#loved
#agift
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Give yourself the chance you deserve! Why not take this go around, to #heal, grow and learn to truly live and thrive, instead of just going through the motions trying only to survive?...
#choosehealingoverhurting
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#changeyourperspective
#changeyourreality
#changeyourlife
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#bpd #ptsd #cptsd #ocd #depression #bipolar #anxiety #beatanxiety #suicide #havefaith  #youmatter

. I can identify all too closely with this quote at the current time. Getting through the day as a "non-smoker" is all I'm concentrating on at the moment. It's been almost 7 days so far and I hate to admit, I got to the point of "begging" for a cigarette a few times (which thankfully was never given to me). . Yup, I said the "B" word 😳 It's exactly that which keeps me from picking up another cancer stick! If you get to the point you need to "Beg" for money, a smoke, drugs, junk food, alcohol, sex, etc. (AKA #addiction ), STOP, take a step back and ask yourself, "WTF am I doing?" .#youareworthsomuchmore . 🙄Yes, #acknowledgement of any issue/addiction is uncomfortable. 😕Yes, #acceptance of said issue/addiction is also uncomfortable. 😳Yes, #withdrawal is uncomfortable. 😥Yes, creating new habits/routine can be terrifying. 🤔Yes, it does take a change in perspective, alongside the realization that you ARE worthy of healing!! . If you continue down the path of self destruction, it will eventually lead to what seems like your entire world spinning out of control and will drag you kicking and screaming along for the ride. This can include, but is not limited to: car accidents, self-harm, rape, suicide attempts, verbal/physical/sexual/mental abuse and trauma, casual sex, more addictions, overdose, cancer and/or death. . You are worth more than that. SO, SO much more!! Yes, you took that first puff, drink or hit, but the reason why is insignificant in comparison to this plain and simple fact: YOU ARE KILLING YOURSELF!! . Isn't it time to stop devaluing all the beauty that is you? Isn't it time to finally deal with the pain, forgive and begin to heal? #lifeistooshorttocontinuehurting . My friends, YOU ALL ARE: #worthy #talented #strong #blessings #amazing #loved #agift . Give yourself the chance you deserve! Why not take this go around, to #heal , grow and learn to truly live and thrive, instead of just going through the motions trying only to survive?... #choosehealingoverhurting . #changeyourperspective #changeyourreality #changeyourlife . . #bpd #ptsd #cptsd #ocd #depression #bipolar #anxiety #beatanxiety #suicide #havefaith #youmatter - 9 months ago

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Today & tomorrow I’m talking about one of society’s favorite topics! No, it’s not death (although, it’s a part of it in most instances), not taxes/money....GRIEF is my jam. I could talk about it all the live-long day! That, and entrepreneurship & personal development BUT grief has lots to do with those things, too.

We simply cannot avoid grief. Well, we can and many do but, that’s why I’m wanting to get a conversation going. 👉🏻Future generations depend on us adults to get this straight. 👈🏻 If you’re in my neck of the woods, I hope you join me! I haven’t done public speaking since ummm...1997, so it should be at least a little amusing, if anything. 🥴😬😆 Grief is inevitable. Come learn about the tools available to take you from heartbroken & stuck to inner-peace.

#griefrecoveryspecialist #choosehealingoverhurting #letstalkaboutgrief #talkaboutgrief #griefguideforhurtinghearts

Today & tomorrow I’m talking about one of society’s favorite topics! No, it’s not death (although, it’s a part of it in most instances), not taxes/money....GRIEF is my jam. I could talk about it all the live-long day! That, and entrepreneurship & personal development BUT grief has lots to do with those things, too. We simply cannot avoid grief. Well, we can and many do but, that’s why I’m wanting to get a conversation going. 👉🏻Future generations depend on us adults to get this straight. 👈🏻 If you’re in my neck of the woods, I hope you join me! I haven’t done public speaking since ummm...1997, so it should be at least a little amusing, if anything. 🥴😬😆 Grief is inevitable. Come learn about the tools available to take you from heartbroken & stuck to inner-peace. #griefrecoveryspecialist #choosehealingoverhurting #letstalkaboutgrief #talkaboutgrief #griefguideforhurtinghearts - 10 months ago

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Judging others is a double edged sword. It reveals the insecurites of the person doing the judging and magnifies those of the one being judged. It's a no win situation no matter how you slice it.
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It takes just as much energy to flip the situation around and listen, educate, lend a hand, give a hug or just plain move along without saying a word. Social media is a cess pool of judgement and bullying which has spurred suicide to an epidemic in this day and age. Think about if what you're saying to others would hurt your son, daughter, brother, sister, mother, father or yourself. If it would hurt any one of them, why would you say it to hurt another?
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If we did more "helping" instead of "hurting", this world wouldn't be falling apart at the seams. If we educate ourselves more, listen to and HEAR our loved ones, lend a hand to our neighbors and work together as a TEAM instead of the great divide that seems to have formed, think about how different this world would be today.
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First and foremost, we need to start healing our own hearts and helping others do the same. It doesn't matter your race, religion, gender, age, etc., we all have a heart. We all have the ability to choose love over hate. We all have the ability to help. We all have the ability to heal.
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And we all have the ability to #changeourperspective
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#choosehealingoverhurting
#bekindalways
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#bpd #eupd #ptsd #cptsd #ocd #depression #anxiety #beatanxiety #suicide #suicidalthoughts #suicideawareness #suicideprevention #mentalhealth #mentalillness #recoveryprocess #dontlookdownlookup #healingprocess #healingoverhurting #chooseloveoverhate #stopjudging #letgoddohisjob #endthehurt #healtheheart #love

. Judging others is a double edged sword. It reveals the insecurites of the person doing the judging and magnifies those of the one being judged. It's a no win situation no matter how you slice it. . It takes just as much energy to flip the situation around and listen, educate, lend a hand, give a hug or just plain move along without saying a word. Social media is a cess pool of judgement and bullying which has spurred suicide to an epidemic in this day and age. Think about if what you're saying to others would hurt your son, daughter, brother, sister, mother, father or yourself. If it would hurt any one of them, why would you say it to hurt another? . If we did more "helping" instead of "hurting", this world wouldn't be falling apart at the seams. If we educate ourselves more, listen to and HEAR our loved ones, lend a hand to our neighbors and work together as a TEAM instead of the great divide that seems to have formed, think about how different this world would be today. . First and foremost, we need to start healing our own hearts and helping others do the same. It doesn't matter your race, religion, gender, age, etc., we all have a heart. We all have the ability to choose love over hate. We all have the ability to help. We all have the ability to heal. . And we all have the ability to #changeourperspective . #choosehealingoverhurting #bekindalways . . #bpd #eupd #ptsd #cptsd #ocd #depression #anxiety #beatanxiety #suicide #suicidalthoughts #suicideawareness #suicideprevention #mentalhealth #mentalillness #recoveryprocess #dontlookdownlookup #healingprocess #healingoverhurting #chooseloveoverhate #stopjudging #letgoddohisjob #endthehurt #healtheheart #love - 11 months ago

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Invalidation Secret:
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Telling any individual that someone else has it worse!!
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We were all created with different limitations and pain thresholds, different physical, emotional and spiritual strengths/weaknesses. Comparing ourselves and our struggles is like comparing apples to oranges.
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Why?
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Because they're DIFFERENT!!
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No two people can feel exactly the same and no two people can heal exactly the same!
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Invalidating one's struggles only further magnifies feelings of negative self-image/worth.
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Why can't we take the time to listen, empathize, and build each other up instead of always trying to compare and tear one another down?
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It takes just as much effort to validate as it does to judge AND if it's not your life, your struggle or your pain, it's not yours to judge in the first place!!
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Love one another, be there for one another and most importantly ACCEPT one another! We are ALL struggling in one way, shape or form. Why does it seem so difficult for today's society to choose helping over hurting?
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#bpd #eupd #ptsd #cptsd #bipolar #ocd #schizophrenia #depression #chronicpain #chronicillness #suicide #anxiety #beatanxiety #mentalhealth #mentalillness #choices #hurtingpeoplehurtpeople #healedpeoplehealpeople
#choosehealingoverhurting #chooseempathy #chooseloveoverhate #choosegodsway #dontlookdownlookup

. Invalidation Secret: . Telling any individual that someone else has it worse!! . We were all created with different limitations and pain thresholds, different physical, emotional and spiritual strengths/weaknesses. Comparing ourselves and our struggles is like comparing apples to oranges. . Why? . Because they're DIFFERENT!! . No two people can feel exactly the same and no two people can heal exactly the same! . Invalidating one's struggles only further magnifies feelings of negative self-image/worth. . Why can't we take the time to listen, empathize, and build each other up instead of always trying to compare and tear one another down? . It takes just as much effort to validate as it does to judge AND if it's not your life, your struggle or your pain, it's not yours to judge in the first place!! . Love one another, be there for one another and most importantly ACCEPT one another! We are ALL struggling in one way, shape or form. Why does it seem so difficult for today's society to choose helping over hurting? . . #bpd #eupd #ptsd #cptsd #bipolar #ocd #schizophrenia #depression #chronicpain #chronicillness #suicide #anxiety #beatanxiety #mentalhealth #mentalillness #choices #hurtingpeoplehurtpeople #healedpeoplehealpeople #choosehealingoverhurting #chooseempathy #chooseloveoverhate #choosegodsway #dontlookdownlookup - 1 year ago

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Fear of abandonment is a major hurdle for those diagnosed with BPD, myself included. When someone would leave (no matter by death, divorce, ending of a relationship, etc.), I felt I wasn't good enough, yet again. I screwed up, yet again. I wasn't worth it, yet again.
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I always made it through those ordeals, however, my self-worth and self-image were what continued to be slaughtered in the process.
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Why? Cause my mind tends to think distorted thoughts. It believes EVERYTHING'S my fault. My mom must have left cause I wasn't good enough to fight for, my boyfriend left cause I wasn't pretty enough, skinny enough, too much, or yet again, not "good enough". It's my mind reiterating that of which was programmed into my younger self: "I am not & never will be good enough".
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When a friendship/relationship ended, I would plummet down that rabbit hole. I turned to unhealthy coping: anger, gambling, cutting, drinking, etc. I backslid into those old thoughts & feelings due to one common denominator: Myself. If everyone continues to leave, of course it must be because of me.
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That's where mindfulness needs to become common practice. Positive self-talk, changing your perspective and the way you think. If you continue to have the same reactions to similar situations, then something needs to change. That something, though, is usually buried within the last place we decide to look.....ourselves.
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It's not easy to "retrain" your brain & it definately doesn't happen overnight, but it IS possible. You just have to put in the hard work & most importantly, you have to want it! If you're trying to heal due to pressure, for family, friends or anyone/anything other than yourself, it just isn't going to work.... #thechoiceisyours #fearisaliar #choosehealingoverhurting #youareworthy
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#bpd #bpdstruggles #bpdrecovery #eupd #ptsd #cptsd #ocd #depression #anxiety #anxietysucks #beatanxiety #suicide #suicideprevention #suicideprevention #mentalhealth #mentalillness #fear #fearcripples #fearlies #abandonment #fearofabandonment #youmatter #changeyourperspective #changeyourreality #changeyourlife

. Fear of abandonment is a major hurdle for those diagnosed with BPD, myself included. When someone would leave (no matter by death, divorce, ending of a relationship, etc.), I felt I wasn't good enough, yet again. I screwed up, yet again. I wasn't worth it, yet again. . I always made it through those ordeals, however, my self-worth and self-image were what continued to be slaughtered in the process. . Why? Cause my mind tends to think distorted thoughts. It believes EVERYTHING'S my fault. My mom must have left cause I wasn't good enough to fight for, my boyfriend left cause I wasn't pretty enough, skinny enough, too much, or yet again, not "good enough". It's my mind reiterating that of which was programmed into my younger self: "I am not & never will be good enough". . When a friendship/relationship ended, I would plummet down that rabbit hole. I turned to unhealthy coping: anger, gambling, cutting, drinking, etc. I backslid into those old thoughts & feelings due to one common denominator: Myself. If everyone continues to leave, of course it must be because of me. . That's where mindfulness needs to become common practice. Positive self-talk, changing your perspective and the way you think. If you continue to have the same reactions to similar situations, then something needs to change. That something, though, is usually buried within the last place we decide to look.....ourselves. . It's not easy to "retrain" your brain & it definately doesn't happen overnight, but it IS possible. You just have to put in the hard work & most importantly, you have to want it! If you're trying to heal due to pressure, for family, friends or anyone/anything other than yourself, it just isn't going to work.... #thechoiceisyours #fearisaliar #choosehealingoverhurting #youareworthy . . #bpd #bpdstruggles #bpdrecovery #eupd #ptsd #cptsd #ocd #depression #anxiety #anxietysucks #beatanxiety #suicide #suicideprevention #suicideprevention #mentalhealth #mentalillness #fear #fearcripples #fearlies #abandonment #fearofabandonment #youmatter #changeyourperspective #changeyourreality #changeyourlife - 1 year ago

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If you're not moving forward, you're either sliding backwards or stuck at a standstill.  Why is that? Because you're afraid.
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It could be fear of something ending, fear of a new beginning, fear of facing the pain, fear of getting hurt again, fear of failure, fear of success, fear of repeating your past, etc. What it all boils down to is a fear of change.
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Well, the problem therein lies in this:
⭕ Without change, you stay the same.
⭕ Without change, you can't break free.
⭕ Without change, you can't grow.
⭕ Without change, you can't heal.
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Change can be terrifying, however, is staying where you're stuck at any easier? Would you rather deal with the pain for a short period of time while working through the healing process, or continue to be caught in that same cycle of hurt forever?
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The choice is totally up to you how you want to live your life. Just remember, the pros AND cons of those decisions fall not in anyone else's lap but your own. And laying blame, guilt or excuses are only hindering, not helping, your movement forward.
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We can't change the outcome of what transpired in the past, however, we do hold the power to fear not and face the pain head on, face the change head on and heal.....
#choosehealingoverhurting #youareworthy
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#facethepain
#facethechange
#fearnotthefuture
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#bpd #eupd #ptsd #cptsd #ocd #depression #anxiety #beatanxiety #suicide #suicideprevention #suicideawareness #mentalhealth #mentalillness #changeyourperspective #changeyourreality #changeyourlife #fearisaliar #thechoiceisyours #dontlookdownlookup #havefaith

. If you're not moving forward, you're either sliding backwards or stuck at a standstill. Why is that? Because you're afraid. . It could be fear of something ending, fear of a new beginning, fear of facing the pain, fear of getting hurt again, fear of failure, fear of success, fear of repeating your past, etc. What it all boils down to is a fear of change. . Well, the problem therein lies in this: ⭕ Without change, you stay the same. ⭕ Without change, you can't break free. ⭕ Without change, you can't grow. ⭕ Without change, you can't heal. . Change can be terrifying, however, is staying where you're stuck at any easier? Would you rather deal with the pain for a short period of time while working through the healing process, or continue to be caught in that same cycle of hurt forever? . The choice is totally up to you how you want to live your life. Just remember, the pros AND cons of those decisions fall not in anyone else's lap but your own. And laying blame, guilt or excuses are only hindering, not helping, your movement forward. . We can't change the outcome of what transpired in the past, however, we do hold the power to fear not and face the pain head on, face the change head on and heal..... #choosehealingoverhurting #youareworthy . #facethepain #facethechange #fearnotthefuture . . #bpd #eupd #ptsd #cptsd #ocd #depression #anxiety #beatanxiety #suicide #suicideprevention #suicideawareness #mentalhealth #mentalillness #changeyourperspective #changeyourreality #changeyourlife #fearisaliar #thechoiceisyours #dontlookdownlookup #havefaith - 1 year ago

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The above pic is of my Aunt Patty. She passed away on Saturday, January 12th, 2019.
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Just us kids are left now. She was the last of my dad's brothers/sisters to die. Due to some unfortunate circumstances, I hadn't been close to her in years. However, she was family and a part of my life, thus the loss still hurts.
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Struggling w/death has always been an issue for me & BPD has been of no help in this arena. The black & white thinking coupled w/extreme emotions tend to see us bottle everything up & close ourselves off or deal w/it in an outpouring of crying, depression, anger & unhealthy coping, accompanied by that nauseating feeling of no end in sight.
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When my dad unexpectedly died, alcoholism became a way of life & health issues began to quickly arise, several of which I'm still dealing w/to this day. I drank & drank & drank for years. Certain songs would send me into a tailspin of crying bouts, guilt & regret. It was a cycle which tried it's damndest to tear me apart &, unfortunately, I stood by & watched it do just that.
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Grieving is a process which doesn't happen overnight. You need to allow yourself the time to sort through all of those feelings/emotions, let them out & heal. Working through this process w/a therapist, counselor, coach, etc. is something I never did, until now. It's been over 15 years of pain (w/my dad) I kept trying to stuff back down, yet it somehow always found a way to resurface & send me plummeting head first down that rabbit hole.
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If you don't deal w/grief head on, it's never going to get better; it will continue to reappear & haunt you. Death can be extremely difficult to handle, especially on one's own. Please don't let pride stand in the way of your mental & physical well being. You're worth whatever it may take to heal & I'm positive those loved ones who passed on would want to see you do just that➡#choosehealingoverhurting
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. The above pic is of my Aunt Patty. She passed away on Saturday, January 12th, 2019. . Just us kids are left now. She was the last of my dad's brothers/sisters to die. Due to some unfortunate circumstances, I hadn't been close to her in years. However, she was family and a part of my life, thus the loss still hurts. . Struggling w/death has always been an issue for me & BPD has been of no help in this arena. The black & white thinking coupled w/extreme emotions tend to see us bottle everything up & close ourselves off or deal w/it in an outpouring of crying, depression, anger & unhealthy coping, accompanied by that nauseating feeling of no end in sight. . When my dad unexpectedly died, alcoholism became a way of life & health issues began to quickly arise, several of which I'm still dealing w/to this day. I drank & drank & drank for years. Certain songs would send me into a tailspin of crying bouts, guilt & regret. It was a cycle which tried it's damndest to tear me apart &, unfortunately, I stood by & watched it do just that. . Grieving is a process which doesn't happen overnight. You need to allow yourself the time to sort through all of those feelings/emotions, let them out & heal. Working through this process w/a therapist, counselor, coach, etc. is something I never did, until now. It's been over 15 years of pain (w/my dad) I kept trying to stuff back down, yet it somehow always found a way to resurface & send me plummeting head first down that rabbit hole. . If you don't deal w/grief head on, it's never going to get better; it will continue to reappear & haunt you. Death can be extremely difficult to handle, especially on one's own. Please don't let pride stand in the way of your mental & physical well being. You're worth whatever it may take to heal & I'm positive those loved ones who passed on would want to see you do just that➡#choosehealingoverhurting . . #bpd #bpdstruggles #bpdhurts #bpdrecovery #ptsd #cptsd #ocd #depression #depressed #anxiety #beatanxiety #suicide #suicideprevention #loss #suicideawareness #grief #mentalhealth #mentalillness #grievingprocess #sadness #guilt #regret #healing #youareworthyofhealing #youaresttongerthanyouthink - 1 year ago

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