Little people with big emotions.
It’s hard. Hard for them and hard for us as well. As parents and educators, when our little ones are going through some big emotions; tantrums, crying, screaming, all of it is HARD.
Especially when the reason our little ones are crying/upset doesn’t seem like it should be that big of a deal, or it doesn’t seem “warranted” in our eyes.
But it’s unfair and unhealthy to dismiss our children’s feelings. To tell them “you don’t need to cry over that” is telling them that their emotional well-being does not matter or isn’t important.
I know it can be tough, when in the moment, the most simple or silly thing sets them off... but instead of trying to explain why they SHOULDN’T be sad (ex it’s ok- we can rebuild the Lego that just broke, it’s not big deal)
Try saying “Wow, I can see how upset you are, you worked so hard on that so I understand why you would feel that way. How about we try and rebuild it?”
The key is to ACKNOWLEDGE their feelings. Let them know they are seen and heard, that their feelings matter, and that you are someone who
they can turn to.
I’ll be honest- I’m not perfect. I’ve totally said the “wrong thing” in the past and I can almost guarantee that I will do it again in the future. So my goal is not for you to read this and think “oh I must be a terrible person for saying those things to my kids!” Nope you’re not.
The most important take away from this: ACKNOWLEDGE.
“I can see you’re very upset right now, that must be really hard to be feeling that way. Do you need _______? (a hug / alone time / to talk about it with me).”
It takes practice to react this way, to use this language. And a lot of repetition.... and if you’re house is like mine- there there’s no shortage of outbursts to “practice”. 😜
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