In retrospect, I understand that the COMPARISON trap was what was wearing on my heart. I wondered why some days I felt on top of the world and others I felt unmotivated and self-deprecating with my inner voice echoing, “what’s the point? It’s just wasted energy.”
I have NEVER experienced positive affirmations or motivation by looking around to see what other people are doing. Maybe my inner monologue is a little too loud on those days, maybe I am prone to overworking myself without meeting my lofty goals and expectations.
When people perceive others as having achieved more, progressed further or faster than others, it creates a culture of competition, yes even in our soul. All too often comparison ends in a negatively supported environment that is void of creativity and innovation.
When your default is comparison, then you operationally put yourself in a box and give yourself 2 emotional options: Am I in the box and limited [insert insurmountable excuses] or am I outside the box and chastised for being different?
On a subconscious level you just painted a picture and defined it as finite. Who’s to say that you couldn’t do the same as well? Who’s to say that you aren’t good enough, fast enough, or smart enough to do it too?
What I hate for anyone who does this to their soul is that you're choosing to allow comparison to void you of your God given creativity and confidence. I once read that the most confident and motivated people are the ones who are okay with what they don’t have. They recognize that they are who they are. They have what they have. They are driven to achieve what they aim for.
So take your unique self and find what works for your life, family, and goals. Recalibrate as you need – without fear of judgement. If you hear the music, then don’t listen to the noise. This is your journey, your impact on the world. Why be self-conscious on wanting to make it better?
So grab your pen. Write your goals. Put your blinders on. And focus on achieving what you dream of.
Action dissolves uncertainty. Make it happen.
Jess - 4 minutes ago