Last week my 6 year old dramatically exclaimed, “I hate my legs right here (pointing to her thighs)!” Listen, she’s usually in a BIG mood and this will not be last time we have this conversation, I’m sure of it. With her, and we all know our own kids best, I have to decipher between the dramatic expressions and the real concerns, while also respecting that she’s trying to tell me something in her own 6 year old way.
I see the statistics on negative body image that tell us girls as young as 4 are already struggling, but my daughter? This is the very thing I work to stop. How have I failed?
But I quickly remind myself that whether it’s negative body image, underage drinking, sex, peer pressure of any kind, and on and on, even when you try to do everything at home the “right” way, our children have SO MANY influences in their lives outside of us.
I’m not a parenting expert, I literally fail every single day in some way, but I’ve learned a few things:
Don’t overreact because they will shut down.
Keep talking to them.
Keep asking questions.
Be a safe space for them to land with their BIG emotions.
Listen when they talk.
Be truthful with your answers.
Create a village around your kids of adults they can trust to be there for their successes and slips ups.
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