When we aren’t conscious we don’t step back and observe the words that we are saying to our children however we MUST.
I want to share something personal from an incredibly therapy session I had yesterday. We were doing some powerful subconscious work and the words which were coming from my subconscious were so limiting and disempowering.
Words like silly, stupid, hard, not easy, embarrassing, annoying, exhausting, upsetting, sad kept being repeated every time I was asked to give a quick fire answer from my subconscious from the questions I was being asked.
I couldn’t make sense of them (in the context of the statements I was being prompted with) but that’s the thing - they don’t make sense on a conscious level but they have been deeply embedded in my subconscious - from the age of 0-7 when a child is like in a hypnosis state whilst their brain is being programmed. These are words that were likely used around me. Whether said to me direct by parents, whether over heard or used by teachers/other caregivers.
Those words became part of me. Formed limiting beliefs and have been carried with me ever since. They became part of my identity and have held me back in so many ways. The thing is it doesn’t matter how much ‘positive thinking’ we do, what affirmations we affirm ourselves with or how many books we read if we don’t work on changing the programme meaning changing the subconscious programme which is done through modalities such as EFT, hypnosis, psych-K (which is what I did).
After I was taken through the process and then asked the very same question but answering from my conscious - I answered with words such as fun, effortless, creative, powerful, joy, peace, growth, happiness, love, positivity, beautiful, vulnerable.
There was such a huge difference once clearing out the subconscious that even my therapist felt emotional at seeing the stark contrast between my answers.
Now this post may go over your head and it’s something I’m going to expand on. But if there is one thing you take from it. Be SO SO mindful of the words you speak to your child and the things you say to them. Comments like “don’t be so silly” (Cntd in comments..) - 15 minutes ago