600 Days Later |•| Domestic Violence Awareness
On the right, you see an embarrassing picture of me from May 2018. My face shows that I had grown cold and tired inside after being trapped for far too long. One of the hardest things I’ve ever had to realize was that I, as a man, had become victim to intimate partner terrorism. While not physical, I was bombarded with daily screaming, false accusations, rumors, extreme jealousy, controlling behaviors, daily location tracking, no right to privacy with anyone, no obligation to my own phone, and threats (If I ever left) every single day. I would be forced to be woken up after working all night and sleeping 2-3 hours most nights, to go out and “spend time with someone.” If I didn’t, I was threatened that they would harm themself (and they even went as far as arming themselves occasionally). I was made to post online about “how great” things were. I was made to be isolated so gradually that no one noticed my exit. Everyone was so convinced that I was living life to the fullest and too busy to even answer when they did check on me. The reality is, I wasn’t allowed to answer anyone.
The broken man on the right, always told himself that he would get away one day and take back his life. Five months after that photo, with the right encouragement from family, friends, and coworkers, I did. I took that opportunity to evolve. On the left, you see me today. You see my evolution, and you see a spark of hope in my eyes again.
I’m writing this for someone out there like me. Male or female, you can be the victim of intimate partner terrorism or violence. You don’t have to explain yourself to anybody, and you DO have a right to privacy. You don’t have to explain who someone is texting you without good reason. No one has the right to threaten you if you want to leave, and no one has the right to know your location at all times (other than for safety reasons). Even more so, no one has the right to read your messages just because they feel insecure.
If you’re reading this, take back your life. Not tomorrow, not next week, but now. You’re not alone out there.
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