Everyone can be charismatic. Here are some tips on how to cultivate your charisma.
BE SELF CONFIDENT
Like yourself. It’s much easier for others to like you if you like yourself. Be optimistic. Keep your glass half-full. Be enthusiastic. Be comfortable with who you are. Be consistent. Hold your own.
Don’t: Trot out all your issues. We all have problems, but compartmentalize them, park them in a corner and bring them out for close friends and family.
TELL GREAT STORIES
Speak with conviction. Use words like “I am sure” vs. tentative words like “I think, I hope and I feel.” Be tuned into humor. Self-deprecating humor can be included - it’s ok to tell a story about an embarrassing moment. Be relevant. Know what’s happening in the world and around you. People want to be with people who are in the know.
Don’t: Confuse humor with bad jokes. Don’t put yourself down so much that it takes away from who you are.
LET YOUR BODY SPEAK
Be open and approachable. Gracious and graceful. Walk up to someone, smile, make eye contact, shake hands. Introduce yourself by saying your name clearly. Own the room when you walk into it.
Don’t: Overdo it. When you smile, be authentic. If your smile is not in your eyes, people will know you're faking it.
MAKE THE CONVERSATION ABOUT THE OTHER PERSON
Let the world revolve around the person you’re talking to. Make the person feel like they are the only person on the planet at that time. Immediately put others at ease and make them feel comfortable with you.
Don’t: Let your ego drive the conversation. We all have egos. If your ego is in overdrive, check it at the door.
BE A GOOD LISTENER
You can’t remember everything, but remembering someone’s name is a biggie. Here’s a trick: When you are introduced to a person, immediately repeat their name. Listen with interest. Pay attention. Engage. Be empathetic.
Don’t: When you’re talking with someone, do not check your cell phone or look around the room to see if someone more important is there.
Source: forbes.com - 5 hours ago