We are not born racist or prejudice. The systemic racism that has allowed for segregation along with the narrative society created to continue the oppression for centuries has impacted the way individuals perceive others and contributed to their appauling biases.
Children take note of race at a very young age. It is our job as parents to raise children that are culturally competent, kind, and inclusive. Also, to understand how and why society is the way it is and how we can help change it.
As a parent, I take this role very seriously and know the greatest legacy will leave behind is good humans. I may speak to them about the injustices and realities of the world, but my actions will always be louder.
For that reason, I took my boys to a peaceful demonstration. We yelled,”Black Lives Matter,” George Floyd,” and ”No Justice, No Peace”. In the car, I explained what these all meant, the circumstances behind it, and why it was critical we show up.
This lesson isn't a sprint. It's a marathon. It's an everyday thing. This is a never-ending conversation I will have with my children, but most of all, it is the actions that I take they will always remember.
Does mom engage with all people? Do we have friends of different races? Does mom get scared or lock the car when a black man walks by? Does mom get angry or sad about injustice or does she not care? Does mom read us books on different cultures? Does mom show us movies with different perspectives and historical events? Does mom make an effort for me to participate in sports teams with diversity? Does mom get involved in my school when I speak of what I think was unfair of racist? Does mom take me to important gatherings on social injustices? Does mom speak to me with real truth? Does mom adovate for others? Does mom stand up when she sees something is wrong? Is my mom an anti-racist?
Think about what your children are watching you do. It's not enough to just speak to them. They are closely watching your actions and how you live your life.
Speak to them, and they will listen. Show them, and they will understand. - 7 minutes ago