Being Black + Femme means you dont get to participate in the cult of true womanhood.
Society asks “women”: for: PIETY, PURTIFY, SUBMISSION, and DOMESTICITY.
Black femmes were taken out of the “western womanhood” conversation at its inception. We’ve historically been denied access to the privileges and protections that womanhood comes with.
As a Black femme you know these things in practice:
-You know you’re seen as aggressive “ The Angry Black Girl”.
- You know people don't move with the same urgency when you're in danger. #ShalonIrving
- You know your body is an invitation for danger. #RIPSANDRABLAND #RIPNIAWILSON
You know the outside world isn't safe. But for a moment you think your community is safe.
And in 72 hours you can be rudely reminded that we suffer from misogyny just as much as our colonizers.
And it's incredibly hard to watch people participate willfully in sexism. I forget sometimes just how much intercommunal trauma we have.
Asking valid questions goes against the rules of race loyalty and will cost you, your safety.
Case and point
"Hey Gayle. (expletive) u. Kobe was our superhero. (expletive)," he said. "How dare you try to tarnish my (expletive) homeboy’s reputation... Respect the family and back off (expletive) before we come and get you." - Snoop
Black men benefit from sexism and will actively participate. And that relationships need to be rectified. And the only way that is going to happen is through tough conversations. WHICH YALL ARE CURRENTLY STOPPING THE PROGRESS ON.
Hard questions need to be asked. There is never a right time to have a hard conversation. THERE'S ALSO NEVER TIME TO ATTACK BLACK FEMMES FOR ASKING VALID QUESTIONS.
-How to love people entirety?
- How do we do have conversations about rape + rape culture in the context of Blackness?
- How do we educate people about the complexity of social-sexually relations?
- What does accountability look like?
- What does restorative justice look like in cases of sexual violence? Or is that even an options??? - 2 months ago