Others may see you as the issue. They may misunderstand you. They may even be committed to it. They may see you as the villain in *their* story.
You see, the decisions we make, boundaries we set, and actions we take CAN set off a chain reaction.
Of course our work is to make sure we are aware of why we’re doing what we’re doing. This is not about reckless decision making. It’s not about not caring about how things impact others. This is about integrated decisions, boundaries, and actions.
How others interpret and experience your healthy boundaries and your why may be confronting to them. Something that may honor you may be felt as an abandonment to them. Something that might be clear to you may be seen as a betrayal to another. Something that makes sense to your story may be judged by another.
So when you’ve checked in with yourself to make sure that you aren’t indeed doing unhealthy and dysfunctional things, you must then begin to create space for getting comfortable in being misunderstood.
Your growth can confront another’s wounding. And for someone else who is unwilling to check in with themselves, it may mean that their commitment is to misunderstanding, judging, or villainizing you to protect them from leaning into *their* work.
#mindfulmft - 4 hours ago