1st baby, I remember looking at my L&D nurse after I got my IV placed and I started crying.
➕“HOW AM I GOING TO DO THIS?”
➕“WHAT WAS I THINKING?”
➕“DO YOU SERIOUSLY TRUST ME TO TAKE HOME A HUMAN BEING?”
I wanted to tell her that just 9 months ago staying out till 2AM was normal for me, that I didn’t like to do laundry, and sometimes forgot to brush my teeth at night! 😩
She gave me a big hug, told me all 1st time moms have a moment like this, and what I really needed to worry about was ME!
ME? Ok….but what did she mean?
I now get it. Babies are along for the ride. Yes, they need basic things like diapers, a safe sleep space, bottles, swaddles, etc., but as long as they are loved and basic needs are met, we need to turn the focus around to the moms!!!
Are moms eating enough? Are moms recovering ok? Are moms showering? Are moms getting adult stimulation? Are moms happy? Are moms sleeping enough?
Because let me tell you now, if Mama isn’t happy, NO ONE IS HAPPY! 😂
My biggest issue was I felt out of control. I had all the “right things” for baby, but in the progress I forgot to prep how to survive the day to day more than finding the best diaper pail in the all the land!
This list is different for everyone, but there are a few common themes that would have prepped me better:
1. What I should expect after birth. (Seriously why didn’t anyone tell me about mesh underwear or squirt bottles?)
2. BREASTFEEDING IS HARD, a mind trip, and oddly beautiful, all wrapped in a big bow of mom guilt.
3. I knew I would sleep less, but how to cope with less and how to help guide babies to better sleep was NO WHERE in my pregnancy book!
Hey maybe that’s why I’m doing what I’m doing today... my lack of knowledge inspired me to help others have more control! 🤷🏼♀️
Take care of yourselves people. Your a better parent because if it!
What was something you wish you knew before becoming a parent??? Comment ⬇️
Also, Tag a parent who you think might want to gain some control on how newborn sleep and life might look! 📷: @coffeeandcoos - 2 days ago