sheisnotyourrehab

𝐒𝐡𝐞 𝐈𝐬 𝐍𝐨𝐭 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐑𝐞𝐡𝐚𝐛™

𝕁𝕠𝕚𝕟 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕘𝕝𝕠𝕓𝕒𝕝 𝕞𝕠𝕧𝕖𝕞𝕖𝕟𝕥!
by @myfathersbarber + @sarahclarebrown
Book + Podcast coming soon!
𝕄𝕖𝕣𝕔𝕙 𝕨𝕚𝕥𝕙 𝕎𝕆ℝ𝕃𝔻𝕎𝕀𝔻𝔼 𝕊ℍ𝕀ℙℙ𝕀ℕ𝔾 👇🏽

It’s sink or swim when it’s time to show up to the ocean of your own life + do the healing work. Social media posts/memes often don’t do the work justice, because it’s actually messy + hard to have to acknowledge past trauma + feel the pain so you can heal from it. It’s easy to talk a good game but doing the work needed requires our vulnerability, our acceptance, our forgiveness + our courage in writing a new narrative for us + our whānau. Mauri Ora! I just want to encourage each of you out there who are bravely doing the work! Keep going! I see you + I’m so proud of you. YOU ARE YOUR ANCESTORS WILDEST DREAMS 🖤🖤

It’s sink or swim when it’s time to show up to the ocean of your own life + do the healing work. Social media posts/memes often don’t do the work justice, because it’s actually messy + hard to have to acknowledge past trauma + feel the pain so you can heal from it. It’s easy to talk a good game but doing the work needed requires our vulnerability, our acceptance, our forgiveness + our courage in writing a new narrative for us + our whānau. Mauri Ora! I just want to encourage each of you out there who are bravely doing the work! Keep going! I see you + I’m so proud of you. YOU ARE YOUR ANCESTORS WILDEST DREAMS 🖤🖤 - 3 days ago

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Appreciate the USO reaching out from San Jose! @haretuku_d was raised in a physically and mentally abusive environment as a child along with 8 siblings. He shares this; “Now that I have a family of my own, I am here to break that habit. My road has not been easy knowing that I was not given the tools to express my emotions correctly. My wife has supported me in the best and the worst times. This shirt represents more than just a statement. I want to be a better husband and father!” 🖤 USO we stand with you in your healing journey + wish you nothing but love! Alofa atu 🖤

Appreciate the USO reaching out from San Jose! @haretuku_d was raised in a physically and mentally abusive environment as a child along with 8 siblings. He shares this; “Now that I have a family of my own, I am here to break that habit. My road has not been easy knowing that I was not given the tools to express my emotions correctly. My wife has supported me in the best and the worst times. This shirt represents more than just a statement. I want to be a better husband and father!” 🖤 USO we stand with you in your healing journey + wish you nothing but love! Alofa atu 🖤 - 3 days ago

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The excitement is real when we see our merchandise being worn all over the world! We get excited because it means the message + kaupapa is travelling to communities everywhere! So honoured + grateful! Ngā mihi nui @babydollvegan for tagging us in! KEEP TAGGING US WHĀNAU! 🖤

The excitement is real when we see our merchandise being worn all over the world! We get excited because it means the message + kaupapa is travelling to communities everywhere! So honoured + grateful! Ngā mihi nui @babydollvegan for tagging us in! KEEP TAGGING US WHĀNAU! 🖤 - 3 days ago

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Dear Brother, 
This is your INVITATION TO HEAL. 
We are EXCITED to invite you to our very FIRST men’s monthly group session right here in Ōtautahi, (Christchurch, NZ). Each monthly session will have another special guest bro bravely sharing a bit of his story (first up is my Uso @mr_sala_man) along with Phil, our resident therapist collaborating with Matt to facilitate group discussion in a safe + meaningful way. 
We can have hard conversations together as this is absolutely a safe place + a judgement free zone for any male 18+ in Christchurch wanting to heal. 
2020 can be your year! 
So if you are interested in connecting, healing + growing with other men who want to show up + do the work within then please join us!

This is FREE to attend + will be held on the last Monday night of each month at @myfathersbarber on Riccarton Rd. It’s our way of investing into the men in our city who want to heal for themselves + their whānau. 
We see you brother! 
We know that therapy can often be unaffordable or just not accessible so we got you! There is power in collective mahi done together.

You are welcome + will be seen + heard! 
Mauri Ora! Let’s Heal! 🖤

Dear Brother, This is your INVITATION TO HEAL. We are EXCITED to invite you to our very FIRST men’s monthly group session right here in Ōtautahi, (Christchurch, NZ). Each monthly session will have another special guest bro bravely sharing a bit of his story (first up is my Uso @mr_sala_man ) along with Phil, our resident therapist collaborating with Matt to facilitate group discussion in a safe + meaningful way. We can have hard conversations together as this is absolutely a safe place + a judgement free zone for any male 18+ in Christchurch wanting to heal. 2020 can be your year! So if you are interested in connecting, healing + growing with other men who want to show up + do the work within then please join us! This is FREE to attend + will be held on the last Monday night of each month at @myfathersbarber on Riccarton Rd. It’s our way of investing into the men in our city who want to heal for themselves + their whānau. We see you brother! We know that therapy can often be unaffordable or just not accessible so we got you! There is power in collective mahi done together. You are welcome + will be seen + heard! Mauri Ora! Let’s Heal! 🖤 - 7 days ago

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SO excited to make my way over to DALLAS, TEXAS today all the way from CHRISTCHURCH, NEW ZEALAND to speak at an incredible event @bbyoinsider. The hood boy in me can’t believe that what started off with conversations I had with men in my first @myfathersbarber barbershop (aka my tin garden shed in Aranui) has now become the @sheisnotyourrehab ‘global movement’ I launched at @tedxchristchurch at the end of last year!! Already this work gifts me international speaking engagements that facilitates conversation around healing our men + creating violence free communities. This is just the first of a few this year I’m already booked in for! Blessed + honoured to do this mahi 🖤

SO excited to make my way over to DALLAS, TEXAS today all the way from CHRISTCHURCH, NEW ZEALAND to speak at an incredible event @bbyoinsider. The hood boy in me can’t believe that what started off with conversations I had with men in my first @myfathersbarber barbershop (aka my tin garden shed in Aranui) has now become the @sheisnotyourrehab ‘global movement’ I launched at @tedxchristchurch at the end of last year!! Already this work gifts me international speaking engagements that facilitates conversation around healing our men + creating violence free communities. This is just the first of a few this year I’m already booked in for! Blessed + honoured to do this mahi 🖤 - 7 days ago

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Sometimes we have to leave whānau. 😞 This could be a childhood home riddled with dysfunction + abuse. Or it could be a marital home where abuse has become the norm. As a Samoan boy I left my childhood home at 15 years old. This was after years of physical + sexual abuse, witnessing extreme violence + being humiliated/verbally abused constantly. It was scary to leave. You don’t just ‘leave’ a Polynesian family at this age. My parents weren’t happy + did indeed threaten me. But by this stage I was so shut down + suicidal that I knew if I didn’t leave I just couldn’t go on. The shame + pain was destroying me so I left with one sports bag of my clothing. That’s it. But that’s all I needed to start the process. My heart was racing + I was so shit scared! As a 34 year old Father + Husband now who has created a life completely opposite to what I knew, I can tell you that the day I left I started to heal + in the almost 20 years since I haven’t stopped because I took full responsibility for my own healing. What had happened to me wasn’t my fault but what happened now to me was my responsibility + I was determined to have a better life than what I knew. My encouragement to every single person who reads these words today is ‘if not now, when?’ 🖤

Sometimes we have to leave whānau. 😞 This could be a childhood home riddled with dysfunction + abuse. Or it could be a marital home where abuse has become the norm. As a Samoan boy I left my childhood home at 15 years old. This was after years of physical + sexual abuse, witnessing extreme violence + being humiliated/verbally abused constantly. It was scary to leave. You don’t just ‘leave’ a Polynesian family at this age. My parents weren’t happy + did indeed threaten me. But by this stage I was so shut down + suicidal that I knew if I didn’t leave I just couldn’t go on. The shame + pain was destroying me so I left with one sports bag of my clothing. That’s it. But that’s all I needed to start the process. My heart was racing + I was so shit scared! As a 34 year old Father + Husband now who has created a life completely opposite to what I knew, I can tell you that the day I left I started to heal + in the almost 20 years since I haven’t stopped because I took full responsibility for my own healing. What had happened to me wasn’t my fault but what happened now to me was my responsibility + I was determined to have a better life than what I knew. My encouragement to every single person who reads these words today is ‘if not now, when?’ 🖤 - 8 days ago

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This message is for the MANY who write to us + ask us how to handle toxic whānau members where your relationship is rooted in dysfunction. They choose how they behave but you also get to choose how much you interact with them. Dr @brenebrown says the most boundaried people are actually the most loving! Honestly we couldn’t agree more!

This message is for the MANY who write to us + ask us how to handle toxic whānau members where your relationship is rooted in dysfunction. They choose how they behave but you also get to choose how much you interact with them. Dr @brenebrown says the most boundaried people are actually the most loving! Honestly we couldn’t agree more! - 9 days ago

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@karina__ruth rocking the unisex singlet!

@karina__ruth rocking the unisex singlet! - 9 days ago

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Currently we are away in FIJI celebrating our joint birthdays! But we wanna say THANK YOU to each + every one of you in this community. We have so many exciting projects to launch this year from @sheisnotyourrehab + WE TRULY JUST CAN’T WAIT! Stay posted whānau 🖤

Currently we are away in FIJI celebrating our joint birthdays! But we wanna say THANK YOU to each + every one of you in this community. We have so many exciting projects to launch this year from @sheisnotyourrehab + WE TRULY JUST CAN’T WAIT! Stay posted whānau 🖤 - 22 days ago

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When you truly live in a safe, healthy, happy, genuinely LOVING relationship like @rants_by_rach + @tikitaane you know good love on the REAL because light shines BRIGHT! Especially in industries where the toxic kinds of relationships are often normalised + kept hidden. Thank you both for being souls that RAISE CONSCIOUSNESS ✊🏽✊🏽

When you truly live in a safe, healthy, happy, genuinely LOVING relationship like @rants_by_rach + @tikitaane you know good love on the REAL because light shines BRIGHT! Especially in industries where the toxic kinds of relationships are often normalised + kept hidden. Thank you both for being souls that RAISE CONSCIOUSNESS ✊🏽✊🏽 - 26 days ago

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Just wanna give a massive tautoko to our girl @rants_by_rach! This mana wāhine is bravely one who STANDS UP, SPEAKS UP + SPEAKS OUT. We see you + we stand with you! There is always a cost to being the person who speaks truth to bullshit but seriously WHEN YOU RISE YOU ENGAGE US ALL TO RISE ALSO! ✊🏽

Just wanna give a massive tautoko to our girl @rants_by_rach ! This mana wāhine is bravely one who STANDS UP, SPEAKS UP + SPEAKS OUT. We see you + we stand with you! There is always a cost to being the person who speaks truth to bullshit but seriously WHEN YOU RISE YOU ENGAGE US ALL TO RISE ALSO! ✊🏽 - 26 days ago

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My beloved community. Sometimes we have to STAND UP, SPEAK UP + SPEAK OUT. EVEN if our voice shakes!! Abusers can be those ‘respected in our communities’ - the leader, the business owner, the minister, the teacher, the kaumatua, the sports star, the coach, the doctor... I want to tell you right now that there is no position on EARTH that justifies ANYONE to use their power to abuse another. It could be sexual, physical, emotional or even financial. We have to come together + collectively say TIMES UP cos this shit ain’t sliding on my watch! We refuse to be a generation that lets predators + abusers lurk in their positions creating endless VICTIMS! If you AGREE with this then please re-post + tag @sheisnotyourrehab cos this is a message that needs spreading to every corner of society! From the hood right through to even in Hollywood There are people preying on the most vulnerable among us! BUT THEY ONLY EXIST IN OUR SILENCE! #timesup #standup #speakup #speakout #sheisnotyourrehab ✊🏽

My beloved community. Sometimes we have to STAND UP, SPEAK UP + SPEAK OUT. EVEN if our voice shakes!! Abusers can be those ‘respected in our communities’ - the leader, the business owner, the minister, the teacher, the kaumatua, the sports star, the coach, the doctor... I want to tell you right now that there is no position on EARTH that justifies ANYONE to use their power to abuse another. It could be sexual, physical, emotional or even financial. We have to come together + collectively say TIMES UP cos this shit ain’t sliding on my watch! We refuse to be a generation that lets predators + abusers lurk in their positions creating endless VICTIMS! If you AGREE with this then please re-post + tag @sheisnotyourrehab cos this is a message that needs spreading to every corner of society! From the hood right through to even in Hollywood There are people preying on the most vulnerable among us! BUT THEY ONLY EXIST IN OUR SILENCE! #timesup #standup #speakup #speakout #sheisnotyourrehab ✊🏽 - 26 days ago

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I’m at the stage of my life where I attempt to choose love in all my relationship interactions. People often ask me how I handle highly dysfunctional extended whānau dynamics. 
Blood is thicker than water right? 
So should we just excuse bullshit just because ‘that’s our family’ and we ‘have to love them’? The way of real love is actually very simple to me. 
What would love do? 
To the degree I love myself is how I can then love others. So I no longer choose to stay in relationships that dishonour my heart and spirit. I just don’t have the emotional space to get caught up in a shit-show. This includes with family members who refuse to do the work to come to our relationship with respect. I don’t cut them off or abuse them back, I tell them ‘not right now’ and leave the door open for them when they are ready to do the work to heal. 
Loving someone from afar is sometimes the most loving thing we can do for them and for us. 
What does love see?
I’ve stopped taking things personally when I see a situation or people with love. It saves a lot of heartache because it’s never about me - them disrespecting or dishonouring me is always about them internally dishonouring and disrespecting themselves. All interactions just show me where things are at for them. So I can genuinely treat them with kindness and empathy but confidently apply my boundary listed above. 
What does love want? 
Love only wants the best for all of us. So in that way I always believe that anyone can grow but I’m aware it might not be when I want. Luckily love is very patient, and if it takes some family members years to grow enough for us to have a healthy reciprocal relationship then I’m prepared to wait. But I’ve stopped making excuses for bad behaviour and I never mistake love for rescuing someone from the consequence of their decisions. 
If you choose to live in any degree of violence/abuse/drama then I choose not to live with that. Period. It doesn’t mean I don’t love you but love calls us higher and calls me to believe for more for all of us.

I’m at the stage of my life where I attempt to choose love in all my relationship interactions. People often ask me how I handle highly dysfunctional extended whānau dynamics. Blood is thicker than water right? So should we just excuse bullshit just because ‘that’s our family’ and we ‘have to love them’? The way of real love is actually very simple to me. What would love do? To the degree I love myself is how I can then love others. So I no longer choose to stay in relationships that dishonour my heart and spirit. I just don’t have the emotional space to get caught up in a shit-show. This includes with family members who refuse to do the work to come to our relationship with respect. I don’t cut them off or abuse them back, I tell them ‘not right now’ and leave the door open for them when they are ready to do the work to heal. Loving someone from afar is sometimes the most loving thing we can do for them and for us. What does love see? I’ve stopped taking things personally when I see a situation or people with love. It saves a lot of heartache because it’s never about me - them disrespecting or dishonouring me is always about them internally dishonouring and disrespecting themselves. All interactions just show me where things are at for them. So I can genuinely treat them with kindness and empathy but confidently apply my boundary listed above. What does love want? Love only wants the best for all of us. So in that way I always believe that anyone can grow but I’m aware it might not be when I want. Luckily love is very patient, and if it takes some family members years to grow enough for us to have a healthy reciprocal relationship then I’m prepared to wait. But I’ve stopped making excuses for bad behaviour and I never mistake love for rescuing someone from the consequence of their decisions. If you choose to live in any degree of violence/abuse/drama then I choose not to live with that. Period. It doesn’t mean I don’t love you but love calls us higher and calls me to believe for more for all of us. - 28 days ago

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A bit about @myfathersbarber for those of you wondering on who is behind @sheisnotyourrehab... A 34 year old, New Zealand born Samoan, Matt is an internationally acclaimed barber and hair artist, communicator, husband, and father of three children known for ‘giving great cuts’ and ‘inspiring great men.’ He is a survivor of family violence and childhood sexual abuse and shares his story with the men who frequent his busy Christchurch and Palmerston North barbershops, My Fathers Barbers, as a way to foster vulnerability, healing, and connection. He has facilitated a barbering program inside Christchurch Men’s Prison, Te Puna Wai O Tuhinapo, a Christchurch youth justice facility and will continue to work alongside @correctionsnz as a patron in 2020. 
Matt started his business with a simple set up in a garden shed in Aranui, Christchurch; and as his talent and client list steadily grew, he gained an engaged following on social media, which he now uses to share messages of inspiration and overcoming. 
His barbering skills and dedication to reviving the craft of barbering have seen him teach and demonstrate all over the world. He’s cut everyone from All Blacks to the Wu Tang Clan but his true calling, he believes lies in his work to redefine societies view of masculinity and to help end the cycle of domestic violence affecting whānau all over New Zealand.
In 2018, Matt partnered with the Ministry of Social Development as an ambassador for their ‘It's not OK Campaign’ to increase awareness about the role of barbers in creating safe spaces that allow men to talk. He sees the barber shop as a ‘cornerstone of the community’ and barber chairs a safe place for men to change not only their looks, but their lives. 
Matt is also a proud ambassador and supporter for the work of Aviva Families, a family violence service centre in Christchurch, the city where he resides. In collaboration with them, Matt hosts a men’s anti-violence support group from his barbershop.
He co-founded @sheisnotyourrehab with his wife @sarahclarebrown and launched the concept in his 2019 @ted talk on the @tedxchristchurch stage. ...’CONTINUED IN COMMENTS’...

A bit about @myfathersbarber for those of you wondering on who is behind @sheisnotyourrehab... A 34 year old, New Zealand born Samoan, Matt is an internationally acclaimed barber and hair artist, communicator, husband, and father of three children known for ‘giving great cuts’ and ‘inspiring great men.’ He is a survivor of family violence and childhood sexual abuse and shares his story with the men who frequent his busy Christchurch and Palmerston North barbershops, My Fathers Barbers, as a way to foster vulnerability, healing, and connection. He has facilitated a barbering program inside Christchurch Men’s Prison, Te Puna Wai O Tuhinapo, a Christchurch youth justice facility and will continue to work alongside @correctionsnz as a patron in 2020. Matt started his business with a simple set up in a garden shed in Aranui, Christchurch; and as his talent and client list steadily grew, he gained an engaged following on social media, which he now uses to share messages of inspiration and overcoming. His barbering skills and dedication to reviving the craft of barbering have seen him teach and demonstrate all over the world. He’s cut everyone from All Blacks to the Wu Tang Clan but his true calling, he believes lies in his work to redefine societies view of masculinity and to help end the cycle of domestic violence affecting whānau all over New Zealand. In 2018, Matt partnered with the Ministry of Social Development as an ambassador for their ‘It's not OK Campaign’ to increase awareness about the role of barbers in creating safe spaces that allow men to talk. He sees the barber shop as a ‘cornerstone of the community’ and barber chairs a safe place for men to change not only their looks, but their lives. Matt is also a proud ambassador and supporter for the work of Aviva Families, a family violence service centre in Christchurch, the city where he resides. In collaboration with them, Matt hosts a men’s anti-violence support group from his barbershop. He co-founded @sheisnotyourrehab with his wife @sarahclarebrown and launched the concept in his 2019 @ted talk on the @tedxchristchurch stage. ...’CONTINUED IN COMMENTS’... - 28 days ago

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We do this journey of @sheisnotyourrehab as a happily married couple who have had to heal ourselves. We’ve had to heal from childhood abuse, dysfunction and violence. We have had to speak out on things that have been hidden and that people have remained silent on in our whānau for generations. We choose a different path now. We have had the courage to say ‘this shit ends with us’ because we want better for our children than what we were given or shown. This platform is really one where we encourage others to take the responsibility of healing themselves. We know it’s hard. We know it takes time. It’s a never ending process! But we truly promise you that it’s worth it. KO TĀKU, HE WHAKAPIKI AKE. Our purpose, is to HEAL 🖤 @myfathersbarber @sarahclarebrown 📷 @redboximages

We do this journey of @sheisnotyourrehab as a happily married couple who have had to heal ourselves. We’ve had to heal from childhood abuse, dysfunction and violence. We have had to speak out on things that have been hidden and that people have remained silent on in our whānau for generations. We choose a different path now. We have had the courage to say ‘this shit ends with us’ because we want better for our children than what we were given or shown. This platform is really one where we encourage others to take the responsibility of healing themselves. We know it’s hard. We know it takes time. It’s a never ending process! But we truly promise you that it’s worth it. KO TĀKU, HE WHAKAPIKI AKE. Our purpose, is to HEAL 🖤 @myfathersbarber @sarahclarebrown 📷 @redboximages - 28 days ago

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Let’s honour and acknowledge the incredible men over at @mens_medicine_ in Australia! We love you @mr_heka + @coachhola. We thank you both for your commitment to supporting men everywhere to HEAL. You + your work are so valuable + much needed. It’s been our honour to collaborate with you in 2019. Thank you for being men of integrity, for showing us a higher path of consciousness + way to live. We will always stand with you on your quest to HEAL. 🖤

Let’s honour and acknowledge the incredible men over at @mens_medicine_ in Australia! We love you @mr_heka + @coachhola. We thank you both for your commitment to supporting men everywhere to HEAL. You + your work are so valuable + much needed. It’s been our honour to collaborate with you in 2019. Thank you for being men of integrity, for showing us a higher path of consciousness + way to live. We will always stand with you on your quest to HEAL. 🖤 - 30 days ago

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Today we want to shout out to the amazing organisation @levapasifika, whose purpose is to support Pasifika families and communities to unleash their full potential. Pictured here with @sarahclarebrown is Dr Elizabeth Mati + @marinaalefosio, two incredibly passionate wāhine who are making a huge difference with their work with Atu-Mai, a violence prevention programme to equip Pasifika young people and their families with the knowledge and tools to live violence-free.
Atu-Mai tools and resources take an educational and skills-based approach aiming for behavioural change across generations, strengthening Pasifika communities by developing confident and resilient Pasifika young people.
The programme content combines evidence-based approaches with expert knowledge, community leadership, and co-design with Pasifika young people to ensure it is culturally relevant, family focused and community-led. We thank you both for your love and service to our people. 🖤

Today we want to shout out to the amazing organisation @levapasifika , whose purpose is to support Pasifika families and communities to unleash their full potential. Pictured here with @sarahclarebrown is Dr Elizabeth Mati + @marinaalefosio , two incredibly passionate wāhine who are making a huge difference with their work with Atu-Mai, a violence prevention programme to equip Pasifika young people and their families with the knowledge and tools to live violence-free. Atu-Mai tools and resources take an educational and skills-based approach aiming for behavioural change across generations, strengthening Pasifika communities by developing confident and resilient Pasifika young people. The programme content combines evidence-based approaches with expert knowledge, community leadership, and co-design with Pasifika young people to ensure it is culturally relevant, family focused and community-led. We thank you both for your love and service to our people. 🖤 - 30 days ago

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Some of my biggest healing came when I accepted the apology never given to me for things that should never have been done to me. 
Forgiveness is never about ‘them’ - it’s the gift for YOU that releases you from being stuck in what was done to you. 
I forgive. I forgive. I forgive. These are the words I would utter daily until I did forgive them. It’s still a process some days. I’m only human. My forgiveness never condoned what ‘they’ did. It didn’t make the abuse suddenly okay. 
It just released the power they had over me because whoever angers you, controls you. 
For years I was stuck in a painful childhood of physical, emotional and sexual abuse. I left home at 15 years old and then it was really my choice or not if I carried that into the rest of my life. So I took the time to forgive and RELEASE the need for them to apologise to me. 
I forgive you. These are profound and sacred words that when said have such GREAT power to move you from a state of victimhood to a place of healing. 
I meet too many of you brothers stuck in childhood pain. But it is YOU that is in charge now so I encourage you to take your healing + freedom seriously. 
I love you. I like you. I life you. Let’s heal. 🖤

Some of my biggest healing came when I accepted the apology never given to me for things that should never have been done to me. Forgiveness is never about ‘them’ - it’s the gift for YOU that releases you from being stuck in what was done to you. I forgive. I forgive. I forgive. These are the words I would utter daily until I did forgive them. It’s still a process some days. I’m only human. My forgiveness never condoned what ‘they’ did. It didn’t make the abuse suddenly okay. It just released the power they had over me because whoever angers you, controls you. For years I was stuck in a painful childhood of physical, emotional and sexual abuse. I left home at 15 years old and then it was really my choice or not if I carried that into the rest of my life. So I took the time to forgive and RELEASE the need for them to apologise to me. I forgive you. These are profound and sacred words that when said have such GREAT power to move you from a state of victimhood to a place of healing. I meet too many of you brothers stuck in childhood pain. But it is YOU that is in charge now so I encourage you to take your healing + freedom seriously. I love you. I like you. I life you. Let’s heal. 🖤 - 30 days ago

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